my value of frienship
it's always easier to start a new friendship. with a sweet smile and a common topic, a beautiful friendship can be shaped. what bout retaining and maintaining the friendship? it really needs lots of hardwork and understanding. for two person coming from different family backgrounds, habits and even thoughts, both parties have to give and take. the equation is give + take = healthy relationship
if one party feels that s/he is trying too hard to only give or take, it'll be hazardous to that friendship in the long run. guess my friends have to understand the fact that sometimes i may not be there for them all the time or hang out with them as much as i used to, they are still in my heart. i'll feel really upset if the friendship fades especially if we used to be extremely close til others see us as an entity. it's not that i'm lazy to make an effort to retain that frienship but life still goes on. we are both busy with life and work but as long as we think of each other, everything will be alright, huh? not exactly if the other person doesn't share the same perception as i do.
for me, i'm not that kind of person who will others how much i care and treasure them as i believe that actions speak louder than words. when my friends are upset or in trouble, i'll do anything to cheer them up though it's at my own expense. it's quite taxing at times but i just can't help it. perhaps being too compassionate and care too much is not really good because there isn't a balance. you won't believe how much i care bout all my friendships, each and everyone of them. i'll try to save it if i feel it's drifting away but sometimes i can only do that much. i'm only just a human and i don't own any magical powers to control anyone. i care bout everyone in the network and circle of friends. if i sense that something is wrong with others, i'll try to help them mend the friendship. but if it's due to a misunderstanding, they need to settle it on their own as i'm still a third party who doesn't know the whole story. of course i'll be terribly upset bout the whole situation but life still goes on.
it's really weird for some people at the thought of i do have different circle of friends. perhaps this person doesn't like the other but i'm still the friend of both. the key is to be fair to the both of them and not to talk bad bout the other person when i'm out with any of them. but...there's always a but....but if the other person has attitude problem, i'm prepared to leave the friendship by all means. i'm not that dumb til others can influence my thoughts. i can still use my own judgement and analyse the whole situation in a calm way. though i may talk non stop during outings, i'm still analysing people around me... haha, actually it's a good thing as others won't notice that i'm observing their moves and analyse their personalities from the way they talk. people will always be caught offguard when they are in front of people who they presumed to be noisy and keep talking bout themselves. lol... it's just a cover if you are alert enough to notice. i'll be watching you =P now, that's scary!
to tell you the truth, i used to cry over ended friendships but as i grow older i've learnt the fact that everyone moves on at some stages in their life. as long as we were once really close and crossed each other's path, we learnt something from that friendship regardless whether the friendship is still ongoing and sweet or it has turned sour. true enough i'll still feel upset at the thought of losing that friendship but what's the point if i'm the only one who wants to revive that friendship? it'll only bring me back to square one. don't you agree on that?Labels: lil chatty chat
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